When I was working at a middle school, we had a boy brought into the office because he was bullying and abusing smaller and younger boys. He was told to sit in a chair next to the vice principal’s office while his parents were called.
Within 20 minutes, the boy’s father stormed into the office and made a beeline to his son and grabbed him by the hair, and started slapping the poor boy around.
It wasn’t hard to see where the kid had learned his behavior.
Not only was this child being abused and bullied by his own father, but he was mirroring the same behavior with other children. He was learning that this was how “a man” behaved in society. Plus he was humiliated in front of the whole office staff by publicly being abused when he thought he was acting manly.
On top of that, he watched his father being arrested when the police were called.
How can all of this not affect him as harmful in the long run? And this was just one day. How many other days did something like this, or worse, happen to this 12-year-old?