1. What’s your best excuse to get out of an invitation?
These days it’s the pandemic. As an introvert, it’s the perfect excuse. Other times, it’s just that I’m not feeling very well. Which is true 98% of the time.
2. When was the last time you ended a relationship of any kind? What was the nature of the relationship?
It was with my cousin. We share a birthday and for that reason I’ve put up with her bullshit for way too long. She loves to judge and criticize people, especially me, which I tolerated for years. But when started attacking my friends that was too much. I gave her three warnings and she continued to do it. I finally cut her out of my life completely.
3. Tell us about a phone call or email that you needed to make but were apprehensive to do? Did you ever make the call or send the email?
I spent 8 years as a long distance operator and the last job I had required me to be on the phone most of the 8 hours I worked each day. Since then, I’ve hated talking on the phone. I will email and text, but I avoid answering the phone and from making phone calls, so they all cause apprehension.
4. Tell us one or two things you do daily as self-care.
I just bought a zero-gravity massage chair and it’s an indulgence but also self care. All of my doctors were constantly telling me to get my feet up. My knees and hips disagreed. This chair reclines so that my knees are slightly bent and my feet and knees are higher than my heart, which pleases the doctors. It has Bluetooth so I can listen to music or an audiobook or a podcast while covered up with a heated blanket. It’s heaven.
5. What are you looking forward to in the holiday season or the coming new year?
Several things. 2020 will be over. 2021 offers hope with a new vaccine and a new president and administration and finally seeing Trump out the door. I know he is not going to just disappear, but he loses some of his hot hair.
Bonus: In what situations, do you wish you could throw down a smoke bomb and disappear?
I know I sound like a broken record (is that aging me? Do younger people understand what a broken record is?), but I want to disappear from my disability and the constant pain. Could I go back to when I was 24? That was the best year ever.