1. Your lover loooves to talk during sex. What is it you want to hear them say?
Although I consider myself a strong and controlling person, and a feminist, when it comes to dirty talk in the bedroom (or on the floor), I am submissive who wants to be controlled. Being called ‘my slut’ or ‘my whore’ gets me hotter. Being told that I must ask for permission to do anything will ensure a very strong orgasm for me.
2. You have been offered a posh, all-expenses paid voyage upon Richie Riches opulent yacht to a sunny tropical island. Only thing is you must sit on deck naked–sunning, sipping your favorite drink and eating your favorite foods. Would you do it…take the fantastic voyage naked? Don’t forget to wave to all the other boats and passersby.
Are you kidding? In a heartbeat!! I would be naked all the time if I thought I could get away with it. Getting a paid vacation with good food, lying in the sun, people watching… OMG, can’t get much better than that!! When do we leave???
3. If you worked in human resources and two equally qualified applicants were up for a position in the company but one of them listed, on their resume, Stripper as a past job would you hire that person?
Of course I would. I’m so tired of people who engage in any kind of sex work as thought of as second class citizens. Judging people based on sex is ridiculous! Sex is something that at least 90% of the population either engage in or at least think about. It’s everywhere… in TV and magazine advertisements, in popular songs, in books and movies. It’s a part of life!! We need to get over the idea that it’s a sin, that’s evil and no one should do it. Same with nudity.
4. Is your dating game high-tech or low-tech?
What dating life? Right now it’s non-existent.
5. What’s the most disappointing text you’ve received? You can give us the context or just the text.
Can’t think of one.
Bonus: Give us your best advice for boosting someone’s sex drive.
Well, since you asked… here are a few ideas that I found worked for me!
- Attitude. If you think you can, you will. If you expect that your sex life will end when you “get old” (whatever age that is; for some it’s 60, for some it’s 30), then it probably will and no wonder you dread it.
- Think young. Play. Listen to the music you grew up with. Sing. Dance. Laugh. Tell dirty jokes. Shock people. Say “Fuck” a lot.
- Watch out for drugs and medications. Based on my experience, the things I’ve read, talking to my doctor and my friends, medications is the number reason why people lose their sex drive and for older people it’s even worse. For some reason doctors believe that being on drugs will prevent bad things from happening. But it’s just the opposite. I know in some instances drugs are an evil necessity. But drugs have side effects. All of them do. There is no such thing as a safe drug. And too many doctors are like drug pushers. If a drug has a side effect that causes problems, they give you another drug to deal with that side effect, which causes another side effect, which means they want to give you another drug and it becomes a vicious cycle. Everything that the doctors said would happen to me after I stopped taking all of the drugs they insisted I needed, never happened. In fact, I am healthier now than I was when I was in my 40’s. One of my biggest regrets is that it took me so long to realize this.
- Do your own research about medications to see if you really need them or if the pharmaceutical companies are just trying to make money off of you. Often you don’t need them at all or there are alternatives that you can use or do instead.
- Start moving around again, if you don’t already. After years of doing nothing because I was curled up in pain, I am starting to workout again. I’m already seeing more energy and flexibility which is helping my sex life.
- Think about sex, talk about sex, read about sex, sext with others, look at pictures of sex (yes, there is nothing wrong with that at all), take “matters” in your own hands (nothing wrong with that either). If you wait until you hop (or crawl) into bed to try to get into the mood, chances are it ain’t going to happen. I also make a habit of posting dirty jokes to my Facebook friends, which delights my grandchildren. Yeah, they know that grandma has a dirty mind and a foul mouth, but they also know that grandma has hair down to her ass, wears rings on all of her fingers, sings along with Def Leppard and the Eagles and Metallica at the top of her lungs and isn’t just sitting in a rocking chair waiting to die.
- Question your religious teachings. I mean seriously, don’t just buy into them because that’s the way you raised and have been told “that’s the way we’ve always done it”. At this age, you should have enough knowledge and experience to look at those teachings more objectively. And if you don’t, get more of both. The damage that religion (of all kinds) has done about sex education, masturbation, sexual positions, and sexual desire is so extensive. You can still believe and practice your religion without being made to feel guilty and shameful for a human condition that is perfectly natural.
- Lastly, enjoy life.. In whatever way that means to you. Open your mind. Be accepting and try to not judge others. Just because something isn’t your cup of tea, it doesn’t mean it’s wrong. Try new things, make new friends, go new places, reexamine your beliefs and ideas, learn new lessons and if this includes having sex at every opportunity, no matter what your age, then jump on it, baby!!! And for those who are in their 20’s, 30’s and 40’s… don’t blink, because you will be us sooner than you think.